I thought it’d be nice to share a huge milestone for my girlfriend Jane and I. We’ve been long distance for almost three years and I felt it was time that we made the next step in our relationship. So, here I am, sharing our story with the wonderful readers of LDR Magazine.
At the time of writing this, we are two days off of our first month as an engaged couple. I’d like to tell you all about how I proposed to Jane and how we got where we are today.
Where it starts
Funnily enough, this story started when we had just become a couple. We knew each other for a year and a half before we even made the decision to call ourselves that. Not long after we did become an LDR couple, I knew that I wanted to marry her. I actually said things like: “In a few years time, I’m so going to get married to you. And we’re also having children, a few … Like 2.” Though that number has doubled since then.
We always talked about marriage and our future together. We always had little plans of when and where we wanted to get married: on the beach, and along the shore. Always during sunset though, that’s our thing. We LOVE sunsets.
Unfortunately some of the plans we made fell through. I wanted to move over to England where Jane is but our plans got pushed back for financial reasons. Fortunately I was eventually able to visit Jane four times. It was in October of 2013 that I was sure of it. I was going to ask Jane to marry me. I wasn’t sure when, but I was going to. I bought a ring and was ready for everything.
A Turn of Events
In June, I got to visit Jane again. This visit was a birthday present from her parents to get me into England for 2 weeks. Two full weeks to spend with Jane. On the 12th of June, we went out for dinner, to an Italian restaurant, for my birthday. The perfect setting to propose, right? Quiet music, Italian cuisine and we were the only ones in the restaurant.
Turns out, I forgot the ring! So I just postponed the whole thing. After our dinner, we went back to Jane’s house and I looked through my bag. Nothing! It wasn’t in there. So that same evening, whilst Jane was busy, I went to her parents and asked for their permission to marry Jane. They said yes and were excited. I then told them about my plan to propose in the restaurant and how I had forgotten the ring.
Jane’s dad told me he would take me to the jewelry store in town the next day and look for a ring so that I could propose to her. I found the ring and it was perfect. It totally matches Jane’s style. It’s a nice and modest ring.
The following day Jane’s dad had the idea of Jane and I going to the beach for a post-dinner walk. Just to wind down a little from the warmth of the day. Really the plan was that I’d propose to Jane on the beach whilst she was clueless to what was going on.
We arrived at the beach and I grabbed the box with the ring and put it in my pocket. We strolled along the beach until we found a quieter spot and we stood there for a few moments, looking out at the ocean. After a while Jane suggested going back. Little did she know I was struggling with the ring box in my pocket. The box was sealed and I was trying to get it off the box whilst stalling Jane as long as I could.
Eventually though, it did come off and I called for Jane when we were starting to walk back. And then the comedic scene happened. I went to propose to Jane and I didn’t even sit on one knee. How terrible, right? If I could do that over, I would. And then the funny part: I opened the box to show the ring, and the box was upside down!We laughed about it then and we still do now. That definitely was funny.
Thankfully enough, even with all the failures by yours truly, Jane accepted my proposal! So, after 3 years of long distance we are officially engaged.
We have a wedding date, in our head and that’s about it regarding planning for a few years until we’ve closed the distance and settled in with each other in the next few years.
So that’s our story. I hope you enjoyed reading it and I hope it inspires you to keep fighting for your own long distance relationship.