So you’re meeting your long distance partner for the first time? Congrats! I am so, so excited for you! You must be pretty nervous, right?
The insane butterflies, the annoying little fears, worrying way too much about what you look like (because let’s face it, nobody looks glamorous after traveling for hours), and just hoping everything goes perfectly.
Don’t worry! Many of us at LDR Magazine know exactly how you’re feeling, and it’s totally normal. I was a nervous wreck the first time I met my partner.
So, in the hopes that you meet your partner with far more grace than I did, here are a few tips I wish I knew:
If they love you online, they will absolutely adore you in person.
The beautiful thing about LDRs is that you’re forced to talk to each other rather than just do things. This may seem like a con to some, but you end up really getting to know each other in a short amount of time. As long as you were honest with yourself and your partner, they will love you to bits.
If you’re wearing makeup while you travel, keep it in your carry-on to touch up before you arrive.
I made the mistake of keeping my powder in my checked-in luggage, so by the time I got to my destination I was an oily mess and felt really insecure. If your appearance means a lot to you on this first meet-up, be prepared. But also, don’t stress about looking your absolute best the first time you meet. You have days together to show them how gorgeous you are, with or without make-up.
Running into each other’s arms and kissing isn’t the usual reality of first-time meet-ups.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve watched dozens of first-time meeting couples on YouTube. These videos are super adorable, but can set unrealistic expectations for your first time. Walking up to each other and giving a nice, long hug can be just as romantic. Besides, that first kiss could potentially be really awkward since you’re not physically familiar, yet.
Make sure your phone is charged!
The last thing you want to happen is to not be able to find each other and realize your phone is completely dead. Most planes, cars and trains have some way to charge your electronics. Pack your charger and save yourself some stress.
Double and triple check what you’ve packed to make sure you didn’t forget anything.
Make a list of things you need to bring. You’ll feel a lot more comfortable knowing you have everything you need with you. Run the list by your partner if you’re going to a totally different country. It’ll be fun and romantic to get them involved.
It’s absolutely okay to be shy the first time you meet each other.
I remember watching CutiePieMarzia’s YouTube video where she talked all about her long distance relationship with PewDiePie before she moved in. She said that the first day they met she couldn’t even speak to him she was so nervous! She wrote to him on paper notes instead. But regardless, Felix still fell in love and they started a life together soon after. Don’t be scared about being shy at first. You’ll warm up to each other very quickly and have an amazing time!
I really hope these little tips help qualm the butterflies and make your first meet-up a total success! Good luck and have a great time!
Question: What are your biggest fears for when you meet your partner for the first time? Or if you’ve already met your partner, what advice would you give first-time meeters?