Advice

Dear Mind Over Miles, P and I have been together for over a year. We broke up in summer 2014 as he was leaving for 2 semester abroad and ldr seemed unreasonable to him. He hooked up with 2 women over a span of 5 months but has come clean to me. It seems like […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, I have my first long distance relationship. My boyfriend needed to fly back to Guam. Because he works there. And I’m in the Philippines. We were so happy and sweet when we were together. And it felt like we could face all the problems in life as long as we are […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, Recently my SO has been dealing with her mother leaving for another country to live. She was really sad about it as she was close to her mother, she also had her university studies, new job and taking care of the house on her plate now and was pretty overwhelmed by […]

I’ve been playing role-playing games for years. I started playing them because it was fun and a great way for me to practice my social skills since I was too scared to talk to anyone IRL. That’s how I met Richard. I enjoyed playing with him because he was very polite. Which is a big […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, My partner decided that he wanted to be the one to make the move across the globe (From USA to Australia). So far its been a whole lot of research, paper work, saving and legal stuff. Out of the two of us, I’m the positive one and unfortunately at the moment […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, We had been friends for years before but something was different and I went for it. I have also just started a job in commercial real estate, which will take about 2 years to really get things going. I’m working with my dad and can see potential greatness in this career, […]

Love hurts but young, naive love can hurt 5 times as much. But with the pain of lost love comes a lot of life lessons and growing up as a person. It was the summer I remember most and the summer I wish I could forget. I was young and searching for someone who could […]

Boy meets girl. Boys asks girl out. The end. Our story was an ordinary one. In fact, it was too ordinary. That’s why I should have known. Dan and I were the perfect teenage couple. We did everything together. We played our favorite online game together, we planned after school activities together and we never […]

Dear Mind over Miles, Hi, I’m currently in my 5th month of a LDR. The first weeks were easy and he made so much effort when he went back home, but this has gradually decreased. My bf says that this is because the internet connection is awful- which in fairness- it is, in Nigeria, sometimes […]

Dear Mind over Miles, My girlfriend and I got together for a couple months before she had to fly overseas to study. We’re now 4000 miles apart and things have gotten very strained and difficult. We try our best to message and do video chats. But all that has started to feel hollow and meaningless. […]

You’d think that in the year 2012 people would be so beyond those old stereotypes and belief systems of how mix & matching races is “wrong” or “taboo.” Leave it to me to somehow manage to meet some of the ding-dongs who still believe in racial purity. Personally, I think the more mixed up we […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, How do you deal with the physical aspect of your LDR? I know that at the moment I’m finding it super hard because I just can’t hug my boyfriend when he needs it, and he can’t hug me when I do. I just miss physical contact. Do you have any tips? […]

Our long distance relationship thrived and brought us closer despite the distance. We’ve been happily married 16 years after a five year, five country LDR. My husband and I lived apart for most of five years when we were dating. The lengths of time apart ranged from one year to 2 weeks. The distances apart […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, I met this guy overseas while I was on a holiday through an online dating app. He and I had a good conversation about astrology and books. I thought he was very interesting and had a good head on his shoulders. After a few days, he then asked for my number […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, About 7 years ago, I met a girl who I saw alot of potential in. I was instantly drawn to her for reasons that I can’t even pinpoint. We started a relationship but being my first long distance relationship, it didnt last too long. I broke it off because I just […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, My boyfriend and I met one year ago online, and we’ve been a couple for nine months without problems. I’m in last year of high school and he’s at second year in university. I went in his city for the new year’s eve for a week with my mom, but there […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, My question concerns firstly the time difference. I’m Swiss, my boyfriend is Australian. That means we’re 8 hours (in winter 10 hours, which is actually easier) apart. It’s really difficult to phone as I go to bed when he gets up and basically vice versa. I don’t know how to deal […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, I met a girl 9 months ago that was rooming with one of my friends when I was traveling. We talked a little, but not too much. Over the next 3 months we ran into each other 2 or 3 times and flirted a little. Then I came back in town […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, Recently my long distance SO went to the doctor for a routine check-up, and the analysis turned out shady. As a result, now he has to undergo more tests because there is a probability that he have cancer. Even though he does keep me updated, he doesn’t want to talk about […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, Hi, I’ve been in a LDR for 2.5 yrs and though I should be used to it, our time difference has changed (from 1 hour to 5 hours) so we haven’t got the hang of it yet. At home my friends are kinda leaving me behind (my two best freinds are […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, I am in a long distance relationship with my lover while I am studying away at university, we have been together for a year and a half. 3/4’s of which I have been away! Not long but we are very happy together and we make the distance work. I am now […]

Dear Mind over Miles, My SO and I are both in college, and we’ve been in an LDR for a month. The semester is ending soon and they’re trying to come up to see me, since I traveled down to see them first. We talk and text constantly, even video call, but this is my […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, We’ve been in an LDR for 1 year and 2 months and have visited each other & met each others families. But now he’s starting to talk about how he is feeling too insecure about us. He said it’s not because of me, but he has things on his mind a […]

Hey, I’ve been in an LDR for 3 years now. I recently remembered when my bf and I started talking he said that “Bob” wasn’t his real name and that when we’ll meet then he’ll say it to me. We haven’t met yet and I already asked him if “Bob”was his real name and he […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, My mother is very strict and will not help financially when it comes to meeting my boyfriend. We’re both adults but financially dependent. How do I persuade her that this is for the best? -Taryn Hair Dear Taryn, I’m sorry to hear that your mother will not assist you in meeting […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, I met him when I was 15 years old. Now we are both 20. We both love each other but he’s had 2 girlfriends after me and currently still has a gf and still says he loves me. When he knows I’m in town he does the impossible to see me […]

Dear Mind Over Miles, My man is in the army bases over seas. We’ve been together over a year and we connect brilliantly both over communication and in person. But that first week when he leaves is like someone’s punched me in the gut. Everything reminds me of him in our flat and I just […]