Advice
Mind Over Miles: He’s Afraid Of Committing To a LDR, Should We Break Up?
Dear Mind Over Miles, P and I have been together for over a year. We broke up in summer 2014 as he was leaving for 2 semester abroad and ldr seemed unreasonable to him. He hooked up with 2 women over a span of 5 months but has come clean to me. It seems like […]
Mind Over Miles: How Can I Spice Up Our Relationship?
Dear Mind Over Miles, I have my first long distance relationship. My boyfriend needed to fly back to Guam. Because he works there. And I’m in the Philippines. We were so happy and sweet when we were together. And it felt like we could face all the problems in life as long as we are […]
Mind Over Miles: She’s Sad But She Won’t Talk To Me. How Can I Help Her?
Dear Mind Over Miles, Recently my SO has been dealing with her mother leaving for another country to live. She was really sad about it as she was close to her mother, she also had her university studies, new job and taking care of the house on her plate now and was pretty overwhelmed by […]
It Happened To Me: I Accidentally Stood Up My Long Distance Date
I’ve been playing role-playing games for years. I started playing them because it was fun and a great way for me to practice my social skills since I was too scared to talk to anyone IRL. That’s how I met Richard. I enjoyed playing with him because he was very polite. Which is a big […]
Mind Over Miles: My S/O Is Thinking About Giving Up On Us
Dear Mind Over Miles, My partner decided that he wanted to be the one to make the move across the globe (From USA to Australia). So far its been a whole lot of research, paper work, saving and legal stuff. Out of the two of us, I’m the positive one and unfortunately at the moment […]
Mind Over Miles: Should I Choose My Career Or Love?
Dear Mind Over Miles, We had been friends for years before but something was different and I went for it. I have also just started a job in commercial real estate, which will take about 2 years to really get things going. I’m working with my dad and can see potential greatness in this career, […]
It Happened To Me: My long Distance Boyfriend Left Me For A Girl Who Lived Closer
Love hurts but young, naive love can hurt 5 times as much. But with the pain of lost love comes a lot of life lessons and growing up as a person. It was the summer I remember most and the summer I wish I could forget. I was young and searching for someone who could […]
It happened To Me: My Ex-Long Distance Boyfriend Stalked Me For A Year After We Broke Up
Boy meets girl. Boys asks girl out. The end. Our story was an ordinary one. In fact, it was too ordinary. That’s why I should have known. Dan and I were the perfect teenage couple. We did everything together. We played our favorite online game together, we planned after school activities together and we never […]
Mind Over Miles: Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
Dear Mind over Miles, Hi, I’m currently in my 5th month of a LDR. The first weeks were easy and he made so much effort when he went back home, but this has gradually decreased. My bf says that this is because the internet connection is awful- which in fairness- it is, in Nigeria, sometimes […]
It Happened To Me: I Broke Off My 2 Year LDR
A Story of the Importance of Love Languages in a LDR I was sitting in my therapist’s living room on a quiet afternoon when I thought about breaking up with my LDR of two years. Her house was built in the 1800’s, with built-in bookshelf’s full of texts on happiness, love, grief, and heartbreak. I […]
Mind Over Miles: Things Are Starting To Feel Hollow & Meaningless
Dear Mind over Miles, My girlfriend and I got together for a couple months before she had to fly overseas to study. We’re now 4000 miles apart and things have gotten very strained and difficult. We try our best to message and do video chats. But all that has started to feel hollow and meaningless. […]
It Happened To Me: Someone Made Fun of My Interracial LDR
You’d think that in the year 2012 people would be so beyond those old stereotypes and belief systems of how mix & matching races is “wrong” or “taboo.” Leave it to me to somehow manage to meet some of the ding-dongs who still believe in racial purity. Personally, I think the more mixed up we […]
How Do You Deal With The Physical Aspect Of Your LDR?
Dear Mind Over Miles, How do you deal with the physical aspect of your LDR? I know that at the moment I’m finding it super hard because I just can’t hug my boyfriend when he needs it, and he can’t hug me when I do. I just miss physical contact. Do you have any tips? […]
It Happened To Me: I Survived A 5 Year, 5 Country LDR
Our long distance relationship thrived and brought us closer despite the distance. We’ve been happily married 16 years after a five year, five country LDR. My husband and I lived apart for most of five years when we were dating. The lengths of time apart ranged from one year to 2 weeks. The distances apart […]
Mind Over Miles: We’ve Been Talking Everyday But I Don’t Know Where We’re Headed
Dear Mind Over Miles, I met this guy overseas while I was on a holiday through an online dating app. He and I had a good conversation about astrology and books. I thought he was very interesting and had a good head on his shoulders. After a few days, he then asked for my number […]
Mind Over Miles: I Haven’t Stopped Loving Her & Feel Homesick All The TIme
Dear Mind Over Miles, About 7 years ago, I met a girl who I saw alot of potential in. I was instantly drawn to her for reasons that I can’t even pinpoint. We started a relationship but being my first long distance relationship, it didnt last too long. I broke it off because I just […]
Mind Over Miles: I Had A Fight With His Mother And Now She Won’t Pay For His Flight
Dear Mind Over Miles, My boyfriend and I met one year ago online, and we’ve been a couple for nine months without problems. I’m in last year of high school and he’s at second year in university. I went in his city for the new year’s eve for a week with my mom, but there […]
Mind Over Miles: How can I deal with so much time difference?
Dear Mind Over Miles, My question concerns firstly the time difference. I’m Swiss, my boyfriend is Australian. That means we’re 8 hours (in winter 10 hours, which is actually easier) apart. It’s really difficult to phone as I go to bed when he gets up and basically vice versa. I don’t know how to deal […]
Mind Over Miles: She’s Afraid She Can’t Commit To a Long Distance Relationship
Dear Mind Over Miles, I met a girl 9 months ago that was rooming with one of my friends when I was traveling. We talked a little, but not too much. Over the next 3 months we ran into each other 2 or 3 times and flirted a little. Then I came back in town […]
Mind Over Miles: My S/O Might Have Cancer and I Feel My I Love Yous Aren’t Enough
Dear Mind Over Miles, Recently my long distance SO went to the doctor for a routine check-up, and the analysis turned out shady. As a result, now he has to undergo more tests because there is a probability that he have cancer. Even though he does keep me updated, he doesn’t want to talk about […]
Mind Over Miles: I Shouldn’t Feel Lonely If I Have Him
Dear Mind Over Miles, Hi, I’ve been in a LDR for 2.5 yrs and though I should be used to it, our time difference has changed (from 1 hour to 5 hours) so we haven’t got the hang of it yet. At home my friends are kinda leaving me behind (my two best freinds are […]
Mind Over Miles: His Band Is Becoming Successful, But He Wants To Move To Be With Me
Dear Mind Over Miles, I am in a long distance relationship with my lover while I am studying away at university, we have been together for a year and a half. 3/4’s of which I have been away! Not long but we are very happy together and we make the distance work. I am now […]
Mind Over Miles: I’m Worried They’ll Get Bored Of Me Because We’re Separated
Dear Mind over Miles, My SO and I are both in college, and we’ve been in an LDR for a month. The semester is ending soon and they’re trying to come up to see me, since I traveled down to see them first. We talk and text constantly, even video call, but this is my […]
Mind Over Miles: Part Of Him Wants Us Together & Part Of Him Is Tired Of Fighting For Us
Dear Mind Over Miles, We’ve been in an LDR for 1 year and 2 months and have visited each other & met each others families. But now he’s starting to talk about how he is feeling too insecure about us. He said it’s not because of me, but he has things on his mind a […]
Mind Over Miles: He Said That Bob Wasn’t His Real Name
Hey, I’ve been in an LDR for 3 years now. I recently remembered when my bf and I started talking he said that “Bob” wasn’t his real name and that when we’ll meet then he’ll say it to me. We haven’t met yet and I already asked him if “Bob”was his real name and he […]
Mind Over Miles: My Mother Will Not Help Financially When It Comes To Meeting My Boyfriend
Dear Mind Over Miles, My mother is very strict and will not help financially when it comes to meeting my boyfriend. We’re both adults but financially dependent. How do I persuade her that this is for the best? -Taryn Hair Dear Taryn, I’m sorry to hear that your mother will not assist you in meeting […]
Mind Over Miles: He Currently Has A Girlfriend & Still Says He Loves Me
Dear Mind Over Miles, I met him when I was 15 years old. Now we are both 20. We both love each other but he’s had 2 girlfriends after me and currently still has a gf and still says he loves me. When he knows I’m in town he does the impossible to see me […]
Mind Over Miles: When He Leaves It’s Like Someone’s Punched Me
Dear Mind Over Miles, My man is in the army bases over seas. We’ve been together over a year and we connect brilliantly both over communication and in person. But that first week when he leaves is like someone’s punched me in the gut. Everything reminds me of him in our flat and I just […]
Mind Over Miles: I’ve lost Interest In My Long Distance Relationship, Help!
Dear Mind Over Miles, I’ve been with my long distance bf for 10 months. My mom, brothers and my few friends (they are very close friends) know about him, but on his side his family has no idea I exist. He says a couple of his friends know but I highly doubt it. I’m tired […]
Mind Over Miles: Why Does She Avoid Physical Affection When I Visit Her?
Dear Mind Over Miles, We’ve been in an LDR for 6 months until now. She meets me every two months. When I ask for a kiss, hug or for personal time when we’re together she makes a reason to avoid it. What should I do? Is this a preferable relationship? Because after every two months […]