Taylor Swift is known for many things: her catchy almost too-close-to-home music, her previously wavy locks, her dedication to her fans, her signature red lipstick and her “dancing” attempts on stage. However she’s also known for another thing: her multiple rumored romances.
It’s no secret that Taylor Swift is known for dissecting past relationships in her music. She’s definitely what you’d call an open-book because she puts really her feelings out there through her lyrics –sometimes with less than desirable reactions from basically everyone.
While some might feel that this expression of reliving old relationships is a faux pas, others take solace in the fact that Taylor Swift provides music that almost anyone can identify with. But can someone who has clearly had several unsuccessful relationships teach us ANYTHING about relationships at all? Let alone long distance ones? Right?
While Taylor is only human and is by no means perfect (no matter how much her fans dictate that she is) we can find some amazingly insightful lessons in her music about long distance relationships:
#1: Come Back… Be Here
“Stumbled through the long goodbye,
One last kiss, then catch your flight,
Right when I was just about to fall”
LDRs are no picnic. In fact, they can be really terrible horrible things to deal with. No one chooses ahead of time to be in a long distance relationship just for the heck of it. Like this song explains, it’s usually sudden, unintentional and is a huge inconvenience in the relationship.
Just when you’re about to really fall for someone, they’re called away for duty, business or school and suddenly the long distance relationship starts to define your life and interactions together. And the entire time your heart is chanting the words to this song “come back… be here.”
#2: Shake it Off
the haters gonna hate,
I’m just gonna shake,
I shake it off, I shake it off
This cleverly catchy song is the very definition of an ear worm. Once it’s in your head, it’s hard to get out and I imagine that contributes a lot to its popularity.
However annoying, catchy or brilliant you might think this song is – the message is clear: not everyone is going to agree with your life and how you live it and sometimes you’ve just gotta shake it off!
LDRs are notorious for receiving a lot of slack and hate from disapproving people, but you gotta do what’s right for you and don’t let the “haters” rain on your parade –be they friends, family or people you really respect. Keep fighting for your love because what you’ve got together is a lot more than most people will ever experience in a relationship.
#3: I’m Only Me When I’m With You
And I don’t try to hide my tears.
The secrets or my deepest fears.
Through it all nobody gets me like you do.
And you know everything about me…
… And I’m only me when I’m with you.
No doubt, your LDR has made your relationship so much closer than you could have possibly imagined. Under normal circumstances “farther = closer” doesn’t exactly scream logical. Yet, despite the challenges you and your partner actually are SUPER close.
You know each other’s deepest fears; you’ve shared sadness and disappointments together and you really know one another inside an out. So when you finally are together, you really feel like you can be your true self. In a sense, you’re only 100% you and 100% whole when you’re finally with the person you love. This song couldn’t explain that better.
Oh, Oh, In the middle of the night
Waking from this dream
I wanna feel you by my side
Standing next to me
Even if you feel amazingly whole and perfect when you’re together, chances are the majority of the time you’re far far apart. Pretty much all of the time, it’s hard being apart. There’s never a point when you’re like “OH, this is amazing being away from the person I love!”
This particular song recognizes that and describes the feeling of waking up and realizing that your other half just isn’t there and wishing that they could be there next to you. You’d be a big fat liar if you said you never felt this way in a long distance relationship. Lyrics like this let us know that its healthy to feel this way, even though knowing that it’s “healthy” doesn’t make it any easier.
#5: How You Get The Girl
I want you for worse or for better
I would wait forever and ever..
And that’s how it works
It’s how you get the girl..
Last, but not least, there’s Taylor’s “How you get the Girl” from her 2014 album which basically describes how we all feel about our long distance relationships. If you’re in an ldr you likely agree: we want our other halves for better or worse –distance being the absolute worst!
Not only that but we without a doubt would absolutely wait for one another as long as it takes to end the distance and get the girl or guy once and for all. Our end goal is always to stick by our partner and be in each other’s arms once and for all.
Do you agree with this list? Do Taylor Swift’s songs really teach us about LDRs? And if you’re a Taylor fan, what songs do YOU relate to? I adore hearing back from you guys! So leave a comment!