Hello, my name is Tayla! I live in Fort Myers, Florida & my boyfriend Victor lives in Las Vegas, Nevada.
Victor and I met last summer in Las Vegas since we both lived there. He and I really liked each other but then I found out that I was moving to Florida so we didn’t commit to it because I have never been a fan of long distance relationships. I have always been scared of them for some reason. But even still we continued to talk and text each other.
Then this year on June 6th I flew to Las Vegas to go see him. He was so shocked and surprised that I realized that it was totally worth the wait to see that look in his face. I remember he was already sleeping when I got to his house so I went over to his bed and hugged him really really hard and I remember that he would rub his eyes and ask me is this real? or am I dreaming? And I just kept on telling him that it wasn’t a dream.
He just grabbed me and threw me on the bed and hugged me really hard and kissed me so passionately that I swear I felt kind of dizzy afterwards. That night we just cuddled and talked like there was no tomorrow. He would tell me every now and then that he felt like he was dreaming and that soon he would wake up and be crushed cause I couldn’t really be there. Needless to say, we’ve been together for 3 months now and 2 months long distance.
Q: How has being long distance shaped your relationship?
I really feel like if we weren’t in a long distance relationship then we wouldn’t be as close as we are now. That’s not to say that we wouldn’t be close at all but I feel that distance brings us together in a different and closer way. I believe that if you want to one day live together, you first need to learn to live apart and doing that will ultimately strengthen your relationship so that you can face anything together.
Q: What are the obstacles you face being LDR & how do you overcome them?
The biggest obstacle for us and I think for anyone in an LDR is not being there physically for each other. I wasn’t the biggest fan of long distance relationships to start with, so this has been pretty difficult. But we use so many different things to stay connected despite this. We use it all. Messaging, Facetime, Snapchat and this cool app called Couple for LDRs.
Q: What helpful advice would you give to other LDR couples?
My biggest tips would be to always have a goal in mind, communicate regularly and as frequently as possible without being clingy, learn to communicate with each other creatively, stay open and honest with each other and always always try to stay positive no matter what happens!
