Do you know if you’re an introvert (Innie) or extrovert (Outie) in your long distance relationship?

The idea of extroverts vs. introverts has been in pop culture for some time now. Books have been written on the subject and entire online forums are dedicated to personality types. Are you an extrovert or an introvert? How does this personality trait affect your long distance relationship? Read below to find out.


The way to determine if you’re an ‘innie’ or an ‘outie’ is to examine how you recharge your energy in and out of social situations. If you’re an extrovert, you recharge energy when you’re around other people.

You enjoy parties, large gatherings, and big groups of people in general. You get depressed or tired when you’re alone. You’d rather go out to a club on Friday night than stay in and watch a movie. If this sounds like you, congratulations! You’re an extrovert!

If you’re an extrovert in a long distance relationship, you may find it extremely hard to stay home and talk or video chat with your significant other. While you like (or love) your partner, it’s draining for you to be alone even though you’re spending time with them.

You jam pack your visits together so that you’re out and about 100% of the time. Kudos to you, because long distance relationships do not come naturally to extroverts. You may find yourself suppressing your needs in order to spend quality time with your partner. But hey, it was probably your tendency to be extroverted that got you to pursue your S/O in the first place!


If everything that was listed above regarding groups of people and going out already made you tired and possibly cowering under your comfy blanket, you might be an introvert. The way in which introverts and extroverts recharge are polar opposites.

You may be an introvert if you recharge your energy by being alone. You long for solitude. You enjoy spending time by yourself. You need that time to process the events of the day and collect your thoughts. You also enjoy being with people but you are drained quickly and look for ways to escape. You’d rather stay in and watch that movie on a Friday night.

If you’re an introvert you probably have a much easier time in your long distance relationship. You like being alone so staying home to chat with your partner isn’t a sacrifice. You quickly drain around a large group of people but thrive when it’s one-on-one. When you and your partner plan your visits, you’d rather stay in every night than go out.

Now that you’ve determined what type of ‘vert’ you are (and your partner too, I imagine), you might be able to solve some mystery problems that have been creeping up in your relationship.

Once you have the perspective of who is an extrovert and who is an introvert, you can start to understand one another better and learn to work with each other’s strengths, weaknesses, and preferences. Good luck!