“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”
It’s been said that long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. Being in an LDR means that you are a fighter. Long distance relationships require more than love. They require inner strength and determination. If you’re a in a long distance relationship, stop for a second and just give yourself a pat on the back. You’re awesome.
In order to make a long distance relationship work you have to learn how to be intimate with your partner from miles away. You learn how to love and support someone in ways you never thought of when you were in a close distance relationship. No one wants to be away from the one they love, but many have discovered practical ways to make the best of a difficult situation.
Let’s find out how being in an LDR helped these 5 long-distance bloggers to grow as individuals and become the strong people that they are today.
But of course, there were miles and miles and miles between him and me. For a while, I was really wondering if I would like to step out of my comfort zone. Whether I’d be good at that, whether things would go bad and what, oh, what would other people think! As it turns out, I was too deep in love to keep on considering these things. I knew that if I wanted my relationship to work, I would have to come out of my comfort zone. I would have to learn to be independent. I would have to learn to let go of my insecurities.
They deal with the doubters. It can be incredibly difficult to be in a LDR, but it’s even harder when the people who usually support you are not a fan of your relationship. Most people in a LDR have to fight against other people’s negative words of advice and still have a positive outlook on their relationship. It can be very stressful and draining for them, especially if they don’t have anyone to turn to for support.
This is one of Christie’s 10 reasons why people in LDRs are some of the strongest people out there. Check out her blog to read the other nine!
With me at school and him in Orlando we were given the independence we needed to build ourselves up. Had I been at home with him, he couldn’t have advanced in his career nearly as much as he has in the past year, he would have been reluctant to travel for work or take risky steps in fear of holding me back. For me, had he been around, I know I wouldn’t have put my focus on school, finding internships, and creating my network. All these things that we have accomplished independently wouldn’t have happened nearly as quickly had we not been in a LDR.
Being in a long distance relationship teaches you how to be really good at the relationship game. I know this might sound a little funny but LDRs almost force you to build strong communication skills, trust, patience and effective conflict resolution. You become very strong as a couple. I thought it would be interesting to share with you how besides making my relationship strong, my LDR actually made me stronger as an individual too.
Patience: I’m a very impatient person. Maybe it’s because I’m part of the “microwave generation”. I’m more patient because of you. Anyone in a LDR will tell you in one way or the other it has made them more patient.
Trust: I never trust anyone, except my close family and some of the friends I have known for years. However I totally trust Him, and it’s mostly because of you, LDR. I feel like since I love Him I have no choice but to trust Him. And so far he hasn’t given me any reason to doubt Him.
Love knows no distance. Which is why many couples like you are fighting to be together in spite of it. They learn to be strong, not just for themselves, but also for their partners. As they get closer to closing the distance they develop strengths that will keep their relationship strong even after they close the distance.