“What is love?” If someone asked you, how would you answer this question? What is love? People say you know when you know. But what does that even mean? How do you know when you’re with the person who completes you?
Maybe you’ve never been in love and wonder what it feels like. Maybe you’re in love now and don’t even know it yet. Or maybe you had a great love that you took for granted because you didn’t know you loved them until it was too late.
No matter what your story is, you have one. Everyone does.When seeking clarity with regards to matters of the heart, it helps to get another point of view. So let’s take a look at how these real long-distance bloggers knew they were in love. Read about their defining moment and what it felt like for them.
“The moment I knew I had found my best friend, my soulmate, my life partner and ultimately the man I want to share the rest of my life with is not something I could define easily. It happens often, where through simple and larger actions he reminds me that he is the man I want to spend my life with. ”
“I asked him if he wanted to walk to the mall with me. It was a cold and rainy autumn night. Nobody would’ve walked down to the mall and back for 6km in total in that weather. And for what? For a donut. Anyway, he did it with me. We had been around my dad’s house and hadn’t had time to really have a conversation until now so we were talking a lot during our little walk. And then he said it.”
“She’s been so supportive and helpful with me adjusting. She even cleared out a drawer for me in the bathroom! Things haven’t been going 100% how I would have liked them, though. I hoped to have a job by now and be able to support us, but that’s proven to be far more difficult than I thought. It’s my biggest stressor. I think about it constantly and it makes me feel like a failure.
But then there she is, hugging me and telling me it’ll be OK. If it wasn’t for her, I’d be going insane. I’ve had a few interviews, including one tomorrow. I just hope it works out. But I know that no matter what, she has my back. I’m excited for the future. I’m excited for OUR future.”
“My heart was warm, but in a very different way. I felt like I was being ripped apart, truly leaving a part of my heart with him. I remember him walking me out to my car, and holding me as I sobbed, telling him how much I loved him and how wonderful I thought he was. I didn’t want to let go, knowing this was the last time I’d be holding him for two years.
I remember pulling away, because I had a long drive and an appointment to make, and kissing him and feeling my tears stream down my face, falling onto his cheeks, mixing in with his own tears. It broke my heart to drive away that day, seeing him stand in the driveway in that huge grey Crossfit hoodie, barely able to see the road through my tears, my hands shaking. I wondered how I could let him leave, when I loved him so much.”
“It was one day, we were in the supermarket buying food for lunch. Don went off to the Deli section to get us smoked salmon and I went off to get other things for lunch. I was picking the bread and looked up, I saw Don from far, waiting for his turn. I was thinking to myself while deciding what bread I wanted and thought, wow it’s been really great these past few weeks. We get along so well. We can live together. It’s been good.
It was at that moment, I realized that I love this dude.
And two seconds after, I had a massive anxiety attack in my head.
“oh my god, oh my god, oh my god!! We have only been dating for how many months?! How can I ‘love’ him already?? Does that happen?”
It’s been said that love is a mystery. But defining moments are like little clues that help us figure things out. Of course, if we don’t know it’s a clue, defining moments could still leave us feeling, well, clueless. Reading about the experiences of LDR couples who understand what you’re going through can help you to figure things out.
If you’d like to read more tips and experiences on the defining moments of other real long distance couples, click the image on the right for more defining moment stories of long distance relationship bloggers.
We know you have your own story to share. What was your defining moment in your relationship? Tell us in the comments.